Yash Talking About Oral Sex - II
Previously: Yash Talking About Oral Sex - I
Be constantly aware of her body language. If she lets out a little cry when you first stimulate her clitoris, it’s not necessarily a good sign. It can be a cry of pain. What’s your tongue doing? Really strong licking with a tensed tongue feels bloody awful. Some women like their clitoris sucked, like they do in porn movies, but most hate it! Give it up and try a gentler technique.
While the clitoris is definitely the star of the show, don’t focus exclusively on it, to begin with. Try stiffening your tongue and pushing it inside her like a pretend penis or swirling it in circles just a little way in (most of the nerves are in the first inch anyway).
Take a break to move up and lick her breasts, biting her neck, stroke and lick her thighs, the area between her anus and vagina, or try rimming (licking around her anus). Then get back to work on the little man in the boat, trying any or all of the following: long licks with the flat of your tongue, a fluttering side-to-side motion, circles, and zig-zags.
Mix it up by using combinations of fast, slow, soft, and firmer (note I said “firmer” not hard) techniques. Lick, don’t flick. You’ll probably find she likes licking more than flicking. “I hate it when they flick it” was one of the most common responses I got when asking girls which oral techniques they did and didn’t like.
A really simple way to find her hottest spot is to trace a figure-eight with your tongue or lick all the letters of the alphabet (lower case is better because the letters are curlier). Both techniques stop any one part of the clitoris from being overstimulated. It’s also great tongue-training. Practice on your palm—bet your tongue hurts before you get to mmmmm.
Just like with intercourse, most women end up settling on two or three favorite strokes, with one as the guaranteed-to-get-me-there. The time to find this out is at the beginning, change techniques as she’s about to come and she’ll never, ever (ever) forgive you.
When you know her favorite place to be licked, tease her in another session by going close to it but not quite there. Occasionally move your tongue to where she wants it. It’s cruel—and she’ll get annoyed if you do it too long—but also hot as hell if you want to get her to begging point. (Or want to get out of doing the dishes.)
Starting to wonder if it’s ever going to happen … and it’s only been five minutes? Dear, oh dear, did they teach you nothing in school? (Sorry, I forgot—they don’t! Most countries have an appalling sex education system.) It’s probably going to take a lot longer than that, my lovely, so settle in.
While you might take an average of four minutes to orgasm, she can do the same if she’s super turned-on but might also take up to 15–20 minutes. Help her get there faster by …Adding fingers. Either thrust your fingers inside her or make a “V” with your index and middle finger and slide them back and forth with the clitoris in between, as you continue licking.
Or get her to put her fingers inside herself while you lick. Reach up and squeeze her breasts. Resist the urge to go faster in an attempt to get her to orgasm quicker. If anything, slow down. The gentler and slower and more consistent you are, the quicker she’ll get there. (Though it’s not a race to get to the finish line even if that is where the “intercourse” flag tantalizingly waves.)
If she’s not even close but you’re so tired you’re losing the will to live, do one of two things. Either reach down and grab the small vibe you’ve put beside the bed for that purpose and hold it close to the clitoris as you continue to lick (or kiss her instead and just let the vibe do its stuff). Or simply ask her if she wants to stop and/or move on to something else.
If she seems close but your attention is wavering and your tongue’s tired, the advice is completely different. I don’t care what it takes but do NOT stop! Imagine you’ll win a million dollars if you just keep going that little bit longer. Imagine you’re having a threesome with Angelina Jolie, Pamela Anderson, and the hot girl you see on the train every morning.
Or the hot guy. Do whatever it takes to eke that final little bit more out of that weary, weary tongue. And if you honestly can’t keep moving it, just press it firmly and let her move against you for a few seconds, licking again the second you recover. (Don’t change techniques, go straight back to what you were doing.)
Continue throughout her orgasm (perhaps upping the speed and pressure a little just before it) and— crucially—do not stop until she pushes you away. Her orgasm lasts way, way longer than yours does. Some women love you to immediately penetrate the second it’s over, while they’re still riding the waves.
If you do, you can set off a further set of scrumptious contractions. Others need time to recuperate and want to lie there panting for a bit. The good news is, she won’t do what you do and roll over and go to sleep.
Her body doesn’t release the sleep hormone yours does, to get her ready for another round. Most of us can keep going without a recharge. Though chocolate and a glass of bubbly wouldn’t go amiss in the breaks.